Attitude: What is in it?

"Raman i asked you to finish this work !" said Mr nelson, chief financial advisor in rage

"Dont you realize the situtation....company is in the mess and we are looking for new developments!"
"You seem relaxed about the work..i will fire you if you don't finish it in a hour"

Poor Raman,what he should do to avoid the situtation...He was given a task of preparing the report of a important merger and acquistion but due to some reasons he could not finsih it in time..

Raman started working fast , taking the stress on him without thinking that it is lunch time and he was hungry some minutes back...

After one hour...

"So you have finally come up with the report",said Mr nelson...

"You could have finished it early"

Raman stood silent gazing at nelson's face as if he was a teacher.Poor raman

After a hectic day , Raman was totally drained out and was looking for complete rest..

To leave for his home in Andheri, Mumbai , he was eagerly waiting for the bus..

10 minutes went past from the time the bus was supposed to reach the bus stop

Poor Raman could not stand for long and started looking frustated...

"Why is the bus late ? " he asks to someone he does know...

No replies!

Now it was almost 60 minutes, the bus was late and you can imagine Raman..

He could not stand ....the smile, forget it...red face, Raman started abusing and mermering something in frustation..

"Here is the bus", a strange man shouted...

As soon as Raman picked a seat in a heavily crowded bus.....he started pondering something

In the meanwhile Ticket checker approachers Raman and asks for the money

"Why the bus was late? Dont you realize that we have to reach our home in time after a hectic day? " Raman skrimed at the ticket checker...

"What is your problem ? Can't you stick to time?"

Raman reached the house ....What a relief ! Quickly he changed.

"Where were you ? " madhu questioned.

"I had a bad time madhu today " and Raman explpained everything...

Finally Raman raised the question "Where is the problem?" as if he was desperate to get the answer.

Madhu after listening the instances was calm.She started laughing at raman...

Raman said "Why are you laughing " . "Is the matter so funny?"

I will end this post here and will continue the same post in the next blog..

Raman and Madhu

Living life is not just taking lessons ,which people realize as spritual and total waste of time. Some of you simply feel that "ahhh , reading all this shit and learning, waste of time ".I fully appreciate your concern but my dears do you really feel that we can keep ourselves away from all this shit.You know what life is a mentor that guides us in every situtation,location and yes forces us to realize the important lessons of life...So here comes the big question...is it not wise to learn the lessons before situtation comes to us or should we be happy to go through the situtation,feel the pain,get frustated and finally learn the lessosn...hahahahaha i need to give a big laugh at that...

My posts about the EGO was an important lesson..I dont know how many of us really realize it and has killed EGO totally ....I will never ask you to keep the EGO aside as many big mentors and experts ask all of us to keep our EGO aside...it means EGO is still within you and yes you can use it in some situtations...

Let us take a situtation and see how EGO works .Here is a small instance which may be real or imagination ..it is up to you!

Madhu and Raman are the true lovers.Madhu met raman when they worked in a big multinational company.So what is so special about them.Let us go more in to their character.

Madhu is a polite,intelligent,shy girl...she has many traits which make her personality soothing.

Enough about madhu..what about raman....Hmm raman is extrovert,some what intelligent,simple guy.

During their job they fall in love and finally got married...

Where is the problem then!

Hmm..

Raman gets lower salary then madhu. she is the big boss.You know what raman being a simple man realises that it his responsibilty to look for all the expenditure ... i mean household expenses but poor guy his salary is low enough to bear the extravagant expenses

One day out of his frustation, raman comes and asks madhu
"i have got a nil saving account"
"U knw very well , i m going out of resources"
"i need help"

Madhu was feeding their new born at that moment

"Raman" she said in a dominant rhythm

"It is you who is responsible for this not me ! "

"Wht do you expect from me"

Raman was utterly shocked to hear this...he suddenly realized about love..dreams..commitment..they done to each other..

''What is my mistake ? '' raman says

madhu went ferocious with a grim face she says
"Mistake"
"You are after my money "
"Your incapablility has put ourselves in this miser situtation"
"What my office mates and parents will think "
"Duffer"

Raman out of his simplicity and innocence tried to come out of the situtation and said
"there is not much difference between our salary "
"Only thing is i have taken resposibilty to take the expenditure"
"I m sorry if u felt bad"

Raman was sad and came out of his house.He started thinking

"Is it a mistake to ask for a help to my spouse when she is earning more than me?"
"Am i really incapable?"
"Where has all love gone ?"
"Why madhu has started suddenly blaming me?"

This situtation will never end and will repeat again and again.
Now what is that u feel ?
where is the problem?
Is raman the culprit?

Situtation is simple but fantastic example of showing EGO and its effect.Because madhu was working at a higher rank she slowly developed, wht is called as EGO of being superior and in that all the love got washed off..On the other hand raman did not rise that much in the rank in his organization so he started feeling inferior to madhu ...Both of them are victim of EGO...

I will end this post here..

EGO

Today i will express my opinion about "EGO".EGO is something which is not new to us.Everyone know 's about it and it's evil consequences!Some of you will be surprised to hear the word "Evil " to describe EGO.I express it as something that makes human devil and bitter than an animal ..sometimes it appears that EGO is a disease and a curse which human loves to keep within as if wearing a diamond necklace and is proud of it not realizing that EGO has converted him to a status lower than animal ...Right!

Reason i am emphasizing EGO is something which makes our lives complex and in turn miserable...no one needs justification for this....What is actually EGO.....For an individual the feeling which let him feel inferior or superior in any situation is EGO.....People get shaken up if you scold them about their cast,religion or character....and what happens next...may be a small quarrel to a big war....Mahabharata in India, was one of the biggest fights and is historical one and that war occured only and only because of EGO of "Duryodhana ", one of the main character 's of the story....

I would like to post some questions here...Inspite of being aware of the EGO and its bad effect 's, we still love it like a chocolate why?

From where does the EGO comes in..i mean how it becomes a habit to see everything from a EGO point of view...

Inspite of being aware of the consequences of EGO ...why we follow it and never introspect it?


I have posted some questions..i hope you will ask yourself...May be life will become more simple and less painful after throwing ourself away from the darkness of EGO.

This is one of the lessons of "Living Life "!

Abhijeet C

Diwali celebrations

hi again .. today is 31 st october 2008 and in india it was end of diwali celebrations all over the place...diwali is a festival celebrated by hindus to welcome the great god and king Shri Ram to ayodhya his kingdom....i had a gala time with lots of relatives pouring in my house..we had prepared diwali special snacks to offer.These snacks are really yummy and i wait eagerly for diwali...."Say no to crackers" was not my slogan this time and manage to crack few crackers not much..but the diwali night was beautiful with every one in nice new dresses...crackers all around and kids enjoying them ...and lights all around...it is really a nice experience how hard u deny...every thing is thematic and hypothetical but this is our cultlure which passes generations to generations...i m passing it to my son...

finally i must say that diwali celebrations made me happy and filled me with the enthusiasm that will last for long...long..long!

LIVING LIFE

This is my first post and i m happy that somehow i got an opportunity to express my thoughts...Living life is an attempt from my side to convey that living a happy life is a art you don't need to master.It comes as it is and we learn to stay happy in the situation's we have been in to by just accepting it...I can understand that it is difficult to accept the most cruel and cunning person in our life's or that person we hate the most may be our boss,teacher or any one but the truth which lies is that whatever and how ever u react u have to accept the situtation.Isnt it! So the first thing which we shd accept (mind i m not saying learn) as live the life as it comes and do not simply grumble.

i follow it and i have seen charismatic results...u dont get stressed and stuffed ...really it works. i can have a discussion on this..